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Elizabeth Hawksworth is a Canadian poet, blogger and short story writer. A busy marketing professional and nanny in Toronto, Ontario, she enjoys taking in the sights and sounds of her city, writing historical fiction, and herding her two cats, Athena and Ophelia. Elizabeth blogs about feminism, body positivity, fatphobia, writing, nannying and social justice at

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  • Winchester

    Interesting. I think I understand where you’re coming from. To play devil’s advocate though, I’m fit and pretty good looking, but dating still sucks. I honestly think “lowering our expectations” is just part of dating. There’s a reason that less and less people are getting married, and I don’t think it’s due to our waistlines.

  • Biff

    “I refuse to accept that.”–That is the crux of the author’s problem: she refuses to accept reality and instead dwells in ShouldBeLand where her physical flaws ShouldBe overlooked by men acting in accord with their primary biological imperative of preferring and choosing the more fit and aesthetically attractive women over the less so. This is not to say that that is their *only* interest but it is their strongest initial one.

    “I don’t feel like I have to lower my standards and expectations because I don’t look like that girl over by the bar.” – Yet she expects guys to lower theirs to satisfy her self-delusion.

    After viewing the author’s photograph, I would rank her a 3 on the 10-Point Scale of Physical Attractiveness. Should she take control of what she puts in her mouth and/or increase her physical activity level in order to drop 50-70lb (depending on her height which I don’t know), she could rise to a 4, maybe 4.5. Her intelligence, her wittiness, her literary skill, the possibility that she volunteers at the homeless shelter and takes in stray animals – NONE of that matters to PHYSICAL attractiveness.

    So her exposition on what men SHOULD find attractive or the qualities they SHOULD weigh more heavily in their estimation is just pointless whining from ShouldBeLand. It is exactly the same as men complaining about how women SHOULD be more logical and less emotional; how they SHOULD talk less instead of being chatterboxes at every given opportunity; how they SHOULD be less concerned over a man’s socioeconomic status.

    Railing against differences in the sexes’ respective neural hard-wiring wrought by millions of years of evolution isn’t going to change it. The author’s time would be better spent on working towards achieving her physical best as well as learning and practicing the 3 tenets of the Serenity Prayer: change what you cannot accept; accept what you cannot change; learn the difference.

  • Peter Gregg

    If your friends wont commiserate with you when something bad happens you need new friends. I’ve generated that disgusted look in other peoples faces when I asked for a date. I’ve had friends completely dismiss me when they were looking for love. It sucks. I’ve had people I was going out with completely freak out when they found out I thought we were dating. That really sucks.

    I used to be a file clerk. I’ve come to think of dating as a sorting problem. There are too many files. They are in no order. Finding the right file is a matter of knowing it is out there and keep looking.

  • Chrispea17

    Hello Elizabeth,

    I don’t want you to feel like a little bit more to love is a bad thing. I’ve been thin and “pretty” my whole life, and let me tell you, the guys that do get our (thin pretty girls, although I view you and I no differently) attention and not yours are usually not the keepers. Some are, as I’m sure you have seen when your friends are married to husbands that gave them attention initially because they were visually appealing, but I’ve met more creeps than good ones in that category. The men(or partners) with beautiful souls and eyes that look deeper than the layer beneath our skin are so hard to find, and then the ones we do find who are “nice enough” or “a good catch” are not our good catch. However, we’re still expected by our friends to date them (almost feel guilty not dating them) because they are better than the last four or five creeps we dated. You’re beautiful because you speak your mind, and there is someone out there wondering why all the women he dates (despite the way they look) don’t appreciate him… and he’ll come get you, in due time. Hopefully mine is out there too. Stay snobby in the bars, the only ones who are saying that you are such, are the ones who aren’t worth your time anyway. Be free, be honest, and be loud with the truth and laugh in the face of those who don’t like it. He will see it glowing out of you. Good luck, and if you find any “nice enoughs” that aren’t your type. Send them my way.

  • WTF


    Seriously? You’re using a 10 point scale and talking in absolutes and evolutionary biology bullshit. Speak only for yourself and no one else. Not all guys are the same, not by a long shot.