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12 Reasons Gender Matters To Understanding Teenage Sexting “Scandals”

Portions of this post are updated from an article published at Bitch Magazine. In what media is again calling a “sexting scandal,” a community in Colorado is grappling with the fact that hundreds of students have been exchanging “lewd” pictures, using photo vault apps that many parents and administrators were unfamiliar with. Situations like this […]

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Having It All (Piece by Piece)

Wow, we have a long time to make our mark on this planet. Think about it: the current US adult life expectancy is 78.8 years according to the Center for Disease Control and Prevention. Let’s round up to 80 years. If you think about it, that’s a lot of time given the rampant diabetes, heart […]

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What Teenage Boys Should Know About Teenage Girls

Among my oldest and best friends are men I became friends with when we were teenagers. For the most part, like teenagers today, we thought of ourselves as equals. We went to the same schools, socialized together, participated in sports meets at the same time, eventually worked in similar jobs and generally assumed that our […]

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Her Body, Her Choice: Nicki Minaj’s “Anaconda”

Unsurprisingly the revelation of the cover artwork for Nicki Minaj’s upcoming single “Anaconda” was met with shock, debate, and criticism. The picture itself is relatively simple: it features Nicki Minaj crouched down looking over her shoulder. She just happens to be wearing a thong that shows her enviable cheeks. But it’s not as though our […]

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How to Be Child-free Stepparent

By the time I was 12, I knew I didn’t want children. I loved kids, I saw the joy they brought into people’s lives, but I just didn’t feel the pang for parenthood. “You’ll change your mind,” said the multitudes of people around me. When I got married at 21, and reasserted my child-free identity, […]

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When It Comes to Reproductive Rights Feminism Cannot Be Blind to Biology

Anyone who has worked in the field of matrimonial and family law, as I have, would be shocked to learn of the purported “forced fatherhood” crisis that has been announced multiple times this year, most recently at Salon. Ignoring a few minor points, “stuff like biology, economics and reality,” Anna March argues that we should make […]

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Lowered Expectations: The Experience of Dating While Fat

Years ago, Mad TV used to have a skit called “Lowered Expectations”. It made fun of video dating ads, and usually had someone who was considered “weird” or “undesirable” creating an unintentionally funny video to place on a dating website or program. I used to laugh a lot at this, because at the time, it seemed funny. Now, in my 30s, I realize that dating really is like an episode of “Lowered Expectations” – because when you don’t look like a poster child for society’s idea of beauty, it’s like trying to hit a dartboard blindfolded.

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TAKE ACTION: This YouTube Channel normalizes Street harrasment

It’s no secret that society accepts street harassment as a normal part of women’s experiences in public spaces.Company after company has come under fire for trivializing street harassment, pegging it as a joke, compliment, or a great way to get a date. Many of those companies have rescinded or apologized for these portrayals. Now, a popular YouTube channel is the latest perpetrator of harmful attitudes toward street harassment — and we need your help to get it removed.

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Fitness Competitions: A dissection of fitness, health and beauty ideals

It seemed farcical. An ardent women’s rights advocate, and outspoken feminist, especially on body issues, I would be entering a fitness competition where winning meant being judged solely on appearance, presence and onstage personality. 12 weeks later, I’ve rarely been so humbled. The twice a day cardio and weight training and strict nutrition program brought […]

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Having It All Without Having Children

One evening when she was 14 years old, laura scott was washing dishes in the kitchen with her mother when she decided she didn’t want to have a child. “You might change your mind,” said her mother, whom Scott describes as “bone tired” from a life in which she “didn’t have any time for herself.” Scott’s mom worked as a samplemaker for an upholstery company; after making dinner for Scott and her brother, she’d park them in front of the television and go down to the basement to spend her evening cutting and sewing. That life was what “doing it all” meant to Scott. “I learned you could—but did you want to?” she says. At 26, Scott got married and waited for her mind to change. “I thought I would be struck by a biological lightning bolt,” she recalls. “It never happened. And I realized I was going to be fine.” As she says from her Tampa office, where she works as a professional coach, writer and documentary filmmaker, “My main motive not to have kids was that I loved my life the way it was.”

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